In 2021, I began working with a client who was struggling with co-dependency.  This manifested for her in clinging to a long-term situation-ship with a man – a budding relationship in her mind, but merely a convenient booty call (for lack of a better word) in his mind.

This man was gaslighting and breadcrumbing the client pretty significantly, and the client was determined to 1) convince him that she was worth marrying, and 2) hold on long enough for him to see that and change his mind.

The message below was recorded raw during a session we had in August of 2022.  Full disclosure, the sound is bad – I just grabbed my phone and started recording when the channeling came through so strong, but it seemed to be Divine Mother’s wish that the message be shared more widely eventually.  Now feels like that time. 

Here, I’ve transcribed the message in text and the audio (with captions) is below that.  If you hear pauses in the audio it’s because I’ve taken out pauses longer than 2 seconds.  The client has consented to this recording being shared.  I hope this resonates with you, because there are some real gems in here that can be helpful for all people, not just those struggling with low self-worth.

Divine Mother’s Message:

…There’s such messages coming through as though Spirit wants to talk to you. 

So these words are of the Divine. 

And the Divine is saying, 

“I know  

you have been fertile ground, 

And that this person, this blind person,

who has, at their core, the same power and Divinity as you,

and who, in My eyes, 

is as cherished and perfect, but he cannot see it,

has convinced you over the years that there’s something wrong with you, 

but please understand that when you do attempt to change his mind, or attempt to see yourself through his blindness, 

and then you are putting him in My place. 

You are giving him My power. 

 Beware of giving people the power of God, for they cannot define you.  

 Only I may define you and I would never define you as anything other than treasured and good. 

He does not belong on that pedestal with the power to tell you who you are,

and to put yourself into the muck of trying to convince him only solidifies his place on this false pedestal. 

If you have to convince someone of your worth, 

they are incapable of seeing that worth. 

It doesn’t mean they themselves are somehow unworthy. 

It doesn’t mean that they are not also a treasured divine being,

but it means that they are incapable of seeing your worth because on some level they are incapable of seeing their own. 

When you desperately  attempt to convince someone of your worth you’ve taken Me out of the equation. 

You’ve given My power over to them. 

I promise you, you do not need to do that. 

It’s part of learning and growing and evolving,

to learn how we’ve developed patterns and unlearning them to rediscover the gems that we truly are. 

I say “we” because you 

are a reflection of Me. I am experiencing Myself 

as Divine through human form each time that you make a choice,

each time that you step deeper into recognizing your worth, you step deeper into recognizing your Divinity. 

I understand why you feel these needs to convince, to reach out, to connect. 

To prove yourself, I get it. 

I invite you to turn your awareness and focus from convincing others of your worth…. to convincing yourself. 

All the energy you’ve been spending, 

trying to get out of the muck by convincing somebody that you are a good person,

or different than how they’re hell-bent on seeing you 

in the hopes that they will reel you up, 

and reel you out of the muck to stand on their on the level

– of the pedestal that they’ve been placed on

by you thinking that they can do that? [meaning, that they have the power to reel you up] 

Use that energy.  Use that energy to support and buffet your  own heart. 

Use that energy to convince your doubting parts of your worth. 

These aspects of self that have been created to keep you connected to your world, your family, to people, your relationships, 

the aspects of self that tell you, you have to prove yourself or convince others: 

They exist. They live inside you as parts of yourself. 

Have those conversations with them 

saying, “My love, my beloved, I know 

why you’d feel this way, why you feel this need. 

And I promise you this is not a need we have anymore.” 

There might be resistance,  and it might be very uncomfortable. 

There could be aspects of you that even rebel,

and say, “No, we have to prove ourselves  worthy!” 

Invite them to spend their energy through accepting the idea that you already are perfection in the eyes of God. 

And that all parts of you – physical, mental, emotional, energetic,  spiritual –

all the little younger selves that live inside you,

that act as the voices in your head telling you, “we have to do this or that or the other thing,  or we’ll be in danger, or we’ll be abandoned!”

Find those scared and loud ones. 

Bring them up out of the mud. 

Sit with them in their fear. 

You can do because you are a worthy and powerful being. 

You have permission to see yourself as Divine, 

to see yourself through My eyes, 

knowing they are the only eyes through which you need to view yourself.  

So compassionately, with unconditional love and affection and care. 

There’s an urgency to these words, because I know that it’s time for you to take others down off of the pedestals that your fear has created.

And on a certain level, you do know this as well. 

We’re meeting here in this moment,

where I always am within you,

and now we get to have clear conversation. 

There’s never a time that I am not with you and within you. 

There’s never a time I’m not defining you as my child, my love. 

Rest in that.